Ladies: Should I offer to help a woman who is struggling with her luggage?
Salsa-Now asked:
Hey this is a serious question. I am always in a dilemma whenever I see a female struggling with her luggage. Should I offer to help or not? How would I know whether she is a rampaging feminist who will get insulted if I offer to help?
Hey this is a serious question. I am always in a dilemma whenever I see a female struggling with her luggage. Should I offer to help or not? How would I know whether she is a rampaging feminist who will get insulted if I offer to help?
Its easier with guys though. I can offer to help and there is no drama involved.
So what are your thoughts?
you should offer your help!
when i went to Quebec with school two years ago this boy in my class carried my suitcase up the stairs for me.
and i thought it was very sweet.
Most women would love your help. You’ll get a few who may think you’re trying to mug them, but anyone who tries to help people gets that. We need more helpful people in the world.
If you’re in a position to help then ask, it won’t hurt anyone and if she is a raging lunatic feminist who gets upset because you asked then just ignore her. I don’t care what anyone says - everyone needs a little help sometimes.
Well, if a guy offered to help me with my luggage, I would be very thankful and impressed that there are guys out there who still perform kind little acts like that. But, at the same time, it also depends on the situation, because, if the guy was being a jerk and trying to take luggage that I did not want him to, then I would be really insulted and worried. If the guy is nice, I would be very happy and might even ask for his name and number
I hope that helps.
Wow, it’s sad that a nice guy like you should even have to be afraid of helping a struggling woman out. It’s really nice of you to even think about helping out, and if they flip out at you for that, then it’s their problem. I would love it if a guy offered to get my luggage. It’s your choice whether you want to help or not, but I think it would be nice.
FIRST ASK IF YOU CAN HELP…
I don’t like someone just grabbing my stuff.
yes…
most women love it when men offer them some help..
its so sweet…=]
Offer your help, don’t worry about her being insulted if shes a feminist unless you live in New Zealand - women in New Zealand are very feminists.
It doesn’t matter if you offer Laila Ali to carry her luggage! lol My point is yes, you should. Its common courtesy.Some women are feminists, but others(like me) would like a strong man to be nice enough to help them with their luggage.
Absolutely you should offer to help. You aren’t responsible for her reaction to it, only for making the offer.
I can tell you that I’ve been very thankful for the gentlemen I’ve met when struggling with packages, luggage, trying to put a large item in the trunk, even once at a graduation where they had the temperature at about -10 degrees and a guy sitting behind me offered me his sport coat.
These aren’t things that degrade women to most of our minds, just kind of a nod to chivalry.
I could also mention that for every “rampaging feminist” you fear to encounter I’ve met a “gentlemen” who offers to help not out of chivalry but in the hopes of getting a date or phone number or something. Just don’t be that guy and you should be ok.
I think even a feminist would recognize that the offer is made because the person sees they are struggling with their luggage and would appreciate the offer.
Please offer help! I am always trying to get my son and husband to offer help when I seem to be struggling with something. If you get yelled at for offering, just take it in stride. Some women are just plain stupid!
It would be kind of you to help her. If she’s a raging feminist then her loss.
If a person needs help, they should be helped. It’s good that you want to. If the lady starts yelping about feminisim or whatnot you may very nicely tell her, “Ma’am this has nothing to do with you being a woman and everything to do with me being a man.”
Yay for guys who don’t let feminism stop them from doing the right thing! (I’m a girl who hates feminists. That’s saying something isn’t it?)
Yes, please offer. Just understand that a woman alone at an airport or train station is probably already stressed and is paranoid about being approached by a purse-snatcher, or, if she has kids, a kidnapper or child molester. If she is brusque, it may be a combination of these factors, not something you did wrong. It’s just reality that guys don’t have the same concerns when they are travelling alone.
Just say, “hi, would you like a hand with that?” You don’t want to suggest that she CAN’T do it herself (that’s a little paternalistic). This approach is merely offering assistance if she would LIKE it. If she says no, thanks, just smile and back off.
Glad there are guys like you still around.
Ninety-five [or more] percent of women would just be happy for your thoughfulness and manners, so why worry about the minuscule percentage women who wouldn’t ??? Even if they don’t want your help, most of them will decline gracefully.[Blossomo2 is right, you have to read the situation, they might think you are trying to rob/cheat/scam them]
Never let a bitter person change your manners and values.
Anyway….if she throws a fit, just ask:
“so…..when did you run out of Prozac??”
just walk up to her and go “miss may i help you with your luggage??”
thats all if she says not go “are your sure” if she said yes then just walk away
In one angle, helping a woman is good and also humanitarian approach. But, in an another angle i feel it wrong and unnecessary involvement. i know some of my friends who are really kind and helped some ladies with huge luggages now attending courts. If they are very old, please help. if they are middle or young, run out of their view. Any guy will appear and surely help them.
Offer because you’ll sleep better at night knowing at least you tried. If the woman freaks, just apologizing for trying to be of help and walk away. You know it’s not so much male vs. female but just human being helping other human beings in need–if she can’t grasp the concept, too bad for her. Most women won’t give you any trouble.
yes you should offer your help! you cant judge people before you meet them! plus it is the polite thing to do and you will do a good deed and make someones days happy! :DDDDDD